Check-in text examples
Straightforward examples you can actually use — for different relationships, different situations, and different levels of closeness. No filler.
Low-key check-ins (no specific reason)
Casual and easy
Hey — just thinking about you. How are things?
What's been going on with you lately?
Hope life is good. What have you been up to?
Haven't heard from you in a while — how are you?
Was just thinking of you randomly. How's everything?
Specific check-ins (shows you were paying attention)
Reference something real
How did [thing they mentioned] go? I keep meaning to ask.
Whatever happened with [situation]?
How's [person/project/situation] going?
Last time we talked you were dealing with [thing] — hoping it worked out.
Did [thing] ever happen? Been curious.
Check-ins when you know they're going through something
Supportive and low-pressure
Just wanted to check in — how are you holding up?
Thinking about you. No pressure to reply, just wanted you to know.
I know things have been a lot lately. Hope you're doing okay.
Here if you need anything. Just checking in.
Warm but brief (for busy people)
Short and genuine
Miss you. What's going on?
Thinking about you. Hope you're well.
Hi. How are you?
Just a quick check-in — how's life?
Check-ins with something attached
Share something + check in
Saw this and thought of you — [link/thing]. How have you been?
This reminded me of [shared thing]. Hope you're doing well.
Found this and immediately thought of you. What's new?
Check-ins after a long gap
When it's been a while
I know it's been ages. I've been thinking about you though — how are things?
We've been terrible at staying in touch. What's been going on with you?
It's been too long. What's new with you?
What makes a check-in feel genuine
The difference between a check-in that lands and one that feels like social maintenance is specificity. When you reference something real about the person's life, it shows you were actually thinking about them — not just going through your contacts.
A single specific question beats three generic ones every time.
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Worth knowing about
The hardest part of checking in is remembering to do it
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